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I am going to tell my story and open my heart to you all, and tell you about my life story through living in pain, when it started, what may have triggered it and how it affected my life over the last 15 years.
As a kid aged 12 I was a boxer, my Dad never allowed me to fight properly until he knew I could defend myself, so I only sparred, but my coach at the time was Simon Wilson, who was the Scottish Light Middle Weight Champion at the time. No easy deal in Scotland to be fair.
While training twice a week at age 12 doing boxing, that taught me a discipline as well I was also playing Football (Some call it Soccer, but we will call it football) from the age of 8 years old, so from the age of 8 I was running and I was a very fit kid, when I started the boxing I was training or playing football for a very big club at the time as well as my boxing sparring contests, the only day I was doing nothing was Sunday’s, that was my family rule back then
I did both till about aged 17 when I became a very young father with my Partner now Miss Shaun, who I have been with since High School, I gave up Boxing and kept doing football. When I was around 21 I was playing for the Edinburgh development team in Dunfermline, 15 miles north of Edinburgh just over the Forth Road Bridge. During the game I got tackled hard by two people at the same time, one hit me in the left leg on the inside below the knee, the other hit me in the same leg, on the outside above my knee, leaving my leg as an L shape and a bone sticking out my skin, the pain still haunts me to this day and remembering the mess of my knee also is something I block out
I had keyhole surgery, I was a bit lucky I damaged my ligaments and tendons badly, luckily I snapped my leg 2 inches below the knee, not actually on the knee, at the time I thought my knee had snapped.
So there I was in Hospital, with a 3 year old son, unable to work and sure I would never kick a football again. 1 year later, I ignored my Dr’s advice and went back to play football, again hurting my knee, I kept playing through the pain, then at age 23 I noticed recovery time between games and the pain going away. By the age of 24, scans and X-rays and a little more keyhole surgery I was told I had to stop working. I was a trained Baker, and this had a devastating effect on not just me, but my relationship with Miss Shaun (Her Name is Dawn) me being young and angry and frustrated I turned to drink and drugs. This lasted a few years and I got sober/straight
At the age of 28 or around this time it was 100% confirmed I had Chronic Pain, at the time there this was a new thing, Dr’s were not 100% about what was causing pain to come over all my body and not just my knee, I got all the tests under the sun, and the pain just got worse. As I hit my 30’s the pain gathered, at this time I was 7 years into being a Football Manager and coach, being a coach you are the one who takes the training session and leads from the front, being Manager you walk around and shout at people being lazy, bad attitude and just not giving it 100%, at this point I had to stop coaching as much, and I was just manager, I did this till early 2012 when I had to give up.
We moved house, had two daughters and the pain peaked, I am told the pain will not get worse in a Chronic Pain way, but will as my body naturally gets older. Looking back I should have stopped playing football when my Knee was an L shape. I speak to my Dr’s now, and the belief is I gave too much to my body too often and to hard and here I am in my late 30’s writing about it
That is my story in a quick a way as possible. It started with my knee, then to leg, hip and the pain hit me all over. Chronic pain is such an odd Syndrome to determine and act upon from a medical point of view. I work with a focus group these days when I can, I speak in seminars from time to time answering questions from “Experts” with a book about my pain, and how it affected me and so on
I lost all faith in the medical world long ago when it came to Chronic Pain, they are good people the team who tried to help me, but the funding for Chronic Pain and similar issues here and elsewhere is so low, they can’t do much other than give you tablets, it is still an unknown, they think most of it is triggered by the mind, but I can’t and don’t buy that one, I am a very positive fun loving lad and I don’t go there. I am depressed only when I am in pain, I am not clinically depressed
The pain, I can only describe as all over body toothache, I can feel it coming, sometimes it starts in my lower back, sometimes my shoulders, sometimes my knees and spreads like a fire in a paper factory and before I know it my entire body is in spasm and in pain. I take heavy medication, but refuse to take the REAL HEAVY STUFF; I would rather be in pain and have a life than spend my life drooling in my bed till the day I die.
This is my story. Fire away if you have a question, please, if my story can help anyone, I want to help people. It allows me to look in the mirror and still feel human, I don’t want sympathy, and I just want the pain to go away. I help the NHS in other ways also, but personal stuff I just need to do for personal reasons
It is not nice, it stole my life and made me hate myself, I am now getting to know the new me, and thanks you all you, I am getting there. But I don’t want to be the new me, but I must accept, it is unfair on any of us who have this, it is cruel what this does to our lives midway through, had I been born with this, I wouldn’t be blogging I don’t think. It stole me and took me away from loved ones, I had to fight back to them, I still am….. My story continues, and I treasure my memories I will leave some below
Shaun x
![After winning a Treble (3 Trophies) This was the 3rd one..](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/picture.jpg?w=549&h=389)
After winning a Treble (3 Trophies) This was the 3rd one..
![To some this means NOTHING, to me it explains who I must be, and all I can be](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/sunday-mail-coaching-award.jpg?w=513&h=1024)
To some this means NOTHING, to me it explains who I must be, and all I can be
![League winners the week after winning the cup, the "Double" was ours](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/dsc00171.jpg?w=549&h=411)
League winners the week after winning the cup, the “Double” was ours
![The day we won the league title. Brilliant day. My oldest Daughter was born two days before this](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/league-winners-fernieside-2008-2009.jpg?w=549)
The day we won the league title. Brilliant day. My oldest Daughter was born two days before this
![Players after the game receiving their awards, and also our league winning Trophy](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/fernieside-getting-presented-with-league-winners-trophy-and-medals-for-league-and-cup-runners-up.jpg?w=549&h=323)
Players after the game receiving their awards, and also our league winning Trophy
![Words from the Match sponsor and myself, I am there in the middle picture somewhere, crowd behind us](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/pictures-and-quotes.jpg?w=534&h=1024)
Words from the Match sponsor and myself, I am there in the middle picture somewhere, crowd behind us
![Me with former Celtic and Scotland international player Stevie Fulton as I progressed with my qualifications in football](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/26032006002.jpg?w=549)
Me with former Celtic and Scotland international player Stevie Fulton as I progressed with my qualifications in football
![Me relaxed and ready to fire my players up in the Stadium an hour before kick off](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/me-at-tynie.jpg?w=549)
Me relaxed and ready to fire my players up in the Stadium an hour before kick off
![Again my first team, I had them WANTING to win at this age, but enjoyment was everything](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/03/picture-003.jpg?w=549&h=411)
Again my first team, I had them WANTING to win at this age, but enjoyment was everything
![My first team 12 years ago (I think) My son in red bottom right, after 3 wonderful years.I cried when it ended!!](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/picture2eeee-036.jpg?w=549&h=411)
My first team 12 years ago (I think) My son in red bottom right, after 3 wonderful years.I cried when it ended!!
![My old boxing club and coach, me back left](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/1987.jpg?w=549)
My old boxing club and coach, 1985 I Think
![My old club I am in the back row middle](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/club.jpg?w=549)
My old boxing club
![I might be there somewhere](https://prayingforoneday.files.wordpress.com/2013/04/1351068146.jpg?w=549)
My old club, my old coach bald lad top right